Is Staying In Love Hard?

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A friend of mine updated her status in Facebook stating that “To love is easy, to stay in love is hard.”

I believe that most of you would say the same thing but for those who experiences true love will surely disagree with this.

I mean, c’mon! If you truly love the person, why can’t you stay in love? Staying in love is easy – probably not that much – but certainly not hard! Just do the things that would make your beloved happy and you will surely be happy too.

I know it is not just that. Being in a relationship needs factors other than love itself. You need trust, care, affection, and so on. The list just go on with no stop.

Believe me, I am not in a perfect long-term relationship myself. My beloved and I usually fight even the smallest reason there is. But, that just makes us more in love with each other!

When you are in a long-term relationship, you tend to exactly read your partner’s mind. Yes, it happens. A lot!

At times, because you believe your partner will act on this way after a fight, you seldom approach him or her and say sorry. But, to tell you, it is always a good idea to address the fight immediately. Well, after both of you are much calmer.

You don’t need to be the faulty ones when you have to say sorry. If you really love the person, there is no reason for you not to ask sorry! Gush, you love that person and you do not want to hurt the ones you love. How much more your special someone in life?

My beloved and I usually fight these days. Yes, I’m guilty – as always! The thing is, after each fight, we make up. I’m just grateful to God I have a very wonderful lover in the world. He understands me – BIG TIME!

In my part, I always tell him how sorry I am, how much I love him, how much he means to me, how much I miss him and oh! I can’t stop talking. I mean, he is my world. He means everything to me.

Also, take it from me. When you are in a long-term relationship, there is always a good reason to surprise your beloved. The excitement in their eyes and the smile that curve their lips – so wonderful! It feels like you are on your first date!

You don’t actually need to plan a surprise party or buy expensive things. A simple love letter with your handwriting is enough. I seldom do that but it is really effective. His eyes lightens on every single word I write. As for his mouth, it is painted with a huge smile – ear to ear! And as for me, my heart leaps every time I see him like that! Of course, I feel really shy afterwards. Haha. But, I can’t help it!

Don’t also forget to always tell and REMIND your beloved how much you love them. Yes. Remind them!

You say there is no point of telling them ’cause they knew it already? Let me ask you. Isn’t it a nice feeling to always hear from the one you love how much you mean to them? to be always reminded that they are there for you? Most of all, to know that the ones you love treasures you like no gem in the world could ever replace you?

Well, if you hear that everyday, will you ever forget how much you mean to your partner? Will you fall out of love if everyday a confession of love is always in your ears? Certainly, not!

The great thing is, the more you open yourself to your partner, the more they open their self to you too.

I know there are plenty of lovers around the world who do not know how to say their love and affection. Trust me, they just need to be pushed. I didn’t say intimidate them but show them how to do it. Even the simplest things count. If they can’t say it then write it!

We say love is sweeter the second time around. Well, how much more the third, fourth, fifth, and so on with the same person? Falling in love all over again with the same person is the greatest love you really need – and it is possible!

So, is staying in love hard?

To My Dear 14-year-old Self

I know that you are struggling hard right now for your second year in high-school – away from your family and away from the hometown you grow up with.

But, that is all a challenge. There is much more you need to encounter. Whatever trials presented to you, never give up! You might not see the fruits of your struggle at this very moment, but it will make an impact in the future. You have to weigh everything before you decide. Don’t rush.

You already made a mistake when you were in first year. Don’t do that again. Study well and do your best to excel. Forget being homesick. Remember, you chose to study on a different part of the country so that you will have a great future. This is all for your family. This is just the beginning.

If only you could vision your life after 8 years, you will know that you make a great decision. Holding your diploma and bearing a bachelors degree is all worth your struggle. How much more if you see yourself inside your own office? That’s a great joy! It is just the beginning of your success.

Pray hard and always believe in God. Never forsake Him. He will guide you and take good care of you. Trust that all will be well. Cause you know what? Everything is well. You are the only one who makes it difficult. Forget the hardships, look for the light.

Good luck!

Sincerely,

Your 22-year-old Self

Present – 2012